The question was posed to me in a round-about way: How much does addiction cost? It seems
like such a simple question, yet it’s been on my mind all day. The question as
it was posed, refers only to the monetary aspect associated with addiction, so
I will not rant about what my addiction took from me over the years, because it
would be a long list and go all the way from every job I’ve ever had, to the
last thread from the last shirt on my back. This question was actually a
treatment assignment during my six-month boot camp-treatment experience at
Willow River Correctional Facility at the end of my incarceration, but all 16 men in my squad were given that
same assignment, so it was really just a competition to see who could come up
with the highest number. I believe I actually wrote down one million dollars.
As I sit here and think about how much I spent over the
years, I wonder if a million might be a little high. For most of my working
years—age 15 until my first sobriety of five years, and then age 26 to 35—I worked
low paying jobs, or sold drugs as a means to sustain my habits, whatever they
may have been at the time. Every penny that I earned—legally or not—went to
some form of addiction. There were some months I paid my bills, but rarely two
in a row, and even more infrequently did I pay all of my bills in one month.
Fortunately, I lived an unintentionally minimalist lifestyle, and had few possessions,
no credit cards, negligible utility costs, and rarely ate food. Evicted, fired,
and arrested were terms commonly used to describe me.
I spent most of my money in bars, so to be a practicing
alcoholic for years was costly. I enjoyed gambling, often at the expense of my
employers who I would steal from in order to keep the rush of losing going. $100-$300
was easily spent at the bar when I went, and most weeks you could find me there
on a nightly basis and that was for years.
With the hard stuff—meth and coke—the numbers are
terrifying. Sadly, most of what I lost in the game of meth dealing wasn’t money.
It was the life, soul, friendships, family, relationships, etc…. that I listed
above. There’s almost nothing I wouldn’t do to get my fix, and as odd as it may
be to say it, I’m grateful I had some good connections in the trade, because I may have gone down
other avenues , who knows. Would I make a great prostitute? Obviously, but it
didn’t come to that. So as a drug dealer, I made sometimes $1,000 a day, for
days in a row, but somehow at the end of a streak like that, I would be broke.
I used more than I could afford, and in the end I had nothing. I was empty,
alone and afraid.
Even in my sobriety, my third chance at life, I’m still
paying for my addiction. When I left prison I walked out with just under $300. Imagine
starting adulthood with no job and less than $300. To say the least it’s been
uphill; starting from scratch from underpants, toothbrush, and a blanket, to a
car, and a computer. Of course, I had some help with a few things when I got
out, but the majority of life’s expenses I have paid on my own because it feels
better to obtain things honestly.
Okay, I don’t think I can go any longer without starting
over at the top because addiction takes so much more away from life than just
money. It takes desire, compassion, love, dreams, desires, and goals. It gives
you nothing in return, leaving only emptiness in a hollow form where there used
to be thought, compassion, and a will to endure. It pushes you so much farther than you ever
thought you could go into the pits of hopelessness, and somewhere, down there
near the bottom, you find the ability to tell yourself it’s okay; that you can
keep on doing what you’re doing and things will turn around. You tell yourself
the way you are is fine even though your moral compass points south. You find
the courage to trudge on but in the wrong direction only to find that the
bottom gets lower with every step. There is only one answer now to the question of how much addiction has cost because you have lost it all again. You’ve lost
everything.